Are you Being a Control Drama?

The topic for discussion this week are "Control Dramas" and in my fleeting conversations with friends, new and old, I think we've discovered a few things that some people just can't get over. So what's a control drama? Its a tool individuals use to get what they want. Unfortunately, it always results in conflict, even though, momentarily its seem to be working, the underlying effects are a damage to a relationship.


Here's a list of what they can take form in:
1. Criticism or guilt
2. Charm, gifts, doing stuff for another
3. Crying
4. Yelling or Screaming
5. Threats, verbal or physical
6. Pulling away, shutting down or not talking to your partner
7. Hurting yourself, breaking things (consciously or unconsciously) or throwing things
8. Being nice
9. Giving affection or sex
10. Using security, children, money, relatives, using social pressure, (i.e. what will our friends and family say or think if you don't do…) or any combination of people, places and things to get what you want.

Control dramas are a form of indirect communication. These people are just not upfront about what they think and feel, hence "beat around the bush" for their goals. 


This upsets people who are in front of the firing line, and they may end up retaliating, emotionally shutting down or leaving the relationship/ friendship.

Overall for all you Control Dramatics out here:
· You will often not get what you want
· You will feel frustrated
· You will feel disappointed
· You will feel unsupported
· You will feel exhausted from the excursion of energy needed for the control dramas.


Maria Tran, signing out!


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